Friday, June 6, 2014

Happy is slow, simple, peaceful.




6 AM and I begin to stir.  The gentle hum of my internal alarm clock wakes me from a solid 9 hour rest.  I blink my eyes open, stretch my limbs, and touch my feet to the floor.  Sunlight is just peeking through the trees as I unroll my yoga mat.  Listening to the birds chirp, I start my day by saluting the sun.  A gentle practice behind me, I make my way downstairs to the kitchen where a fresh pot of steamy hot coffee waits.  Mug in hand, I make my way to the table and begin my morning pages.  I sip and write emptying my mind and filling my soul while the rest of the house is still sleeping.  

8 AM and the others make their way to the kitchen.  Morning is slow and quiet.  We eat together then go our separate ways to get ready for the day ahead.  Sean heads out to work, and the girls meet at the table, books and laptops in hand, ready for their school day. 

10 AM and the girls work together on a project about European landmarks and legends, their most recent interest to study.  I finish up an essay on the ways simplicity has changed my life and move on to write a sequence for this evening’s yoga class.  My theme is living in the present moment. 

1 PM and lunch is done.  The girls and I head outside for a little vitamin D therapy and stroll around the neighborhood.  With animated conversation we cover a few miles letting a white-faced Lucky lead the way.  We make our way back to the house and play jump rope in the driveway, Lucky happily chewing a stick in the shade.  Back in the house with cool drinks in hand, we gather pillows, blankets, beanbag chairs and get cozy.  An afternoon of pleasure reading and creative writing follows. 

6 PM and Sean walks in the door from work.  As a family we sit at the table and enjoy a healthy, home cooked meal.  Dishes are done before Sean and the girls head back outside for an always continuing game of bad mitten.  I take a moment to listen to their friendly competition before heading downstairs to my studio for my evening class.  Guiding a small group of women through their asana practice, I share my love of yoga. 

9 PM and it’s time for bed.  The girls are showered and waiting in their jammies.  This is the time of night I cherish.  E wanting extra snuggles all cozied under covers and G waiting to read just one more book together before falling asleep, I tuck in my babies with a tired body and a full heart.  Back down the stairs one last time for a quiet moment with my partner in this journey, I share my gratitude for this pretty spectacular life that we created. 

Pretty amazing, right?  Yeah.  This is not my life…at least not yet, anyway.  This is my dream.  This is the life my family is working to create. 

My day currently happens a bit more like this…

6:39 AM Crap.  Four snoozes may have been too many.  I slowly maneuver my stiff, creaking body into a mostly upright position and hobble bleary-eyed to the stairs.  With a death grip on the banister to avoid falling and bouncing on my bottom all the way down (again), I make my way to the kitchen.  Sean is making the girls breakfast, while they fall back asleep, heads on the table.  Coffee.  I start a pot, spilling water all over the counter top as I pour.  While the pot brews I attempt to pack lunches uncaffeinated.  Ha.  My girls will later complain to me that “you gave me the wrong sandwich” and “she drinks grape juice, mom.  I don’t even like it.”  After breakfast there is a blur of uniform pants and too small polo shirts, struggles to find matching shoes, and a mad dash to scrounge up some cash for pretzel day…

You get the picture, right?  The rest of the day more often than not continues in this fashion.  Rush out the door for school, after school snacks on the run, basketball/dance/girl scouts/orchestra, dinner too late, shower, bed, repeat…

This is not working for my family anymore.  We have decided that busy is overrated.  We need slow.  We need simple.  We need peace.  This is why we are making a change.  We crave a slower life, and there is no reason that my dream can’t be our reality. 

We are looking for happy.  Happy, for us, is being together as a family, and creating happy is simple – choose the unconventional, un-busy, peaceful way of living.  A life with less really is more.  By removing things from our life (stuff from our home, activities from our schedule) we gain the opportunity for more in the way of slow, simple, and peaceful.  I look forward to the days to come as my little family makes the deliberate choices to live with intention and create a life full of meaning and purpose – a life that defines our own version of happy.    

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